Spiteful Dog

Just wondering if anyone else has this problem. This past week it seems like my dog is being spiteful by peeing in the house and going through the garbage for my daughter's dirty diapers and garbage. Is she really being spiteful and wants attention?

I have to say that my dog has had to read just to apartment living coming from a house with a yard and pool. I admit that she doesn't have a consistent walk schedule either. When the weather has been so cold, often times it has been extremely difficult to walk her with a baby. When the weather is warmer, I enjoy taking my dog on walks.

I try to give my dog a lot of attention because I am a Wanda and I love my dog. When you have a crawling one year old, things definitely change and it's not about the dog anymore. Any suggestions? Thank you.

How to Train a Spiteful Dog

Training dogs can be a challenging task, but if you have a pup that is hostile or extraordinarily spiteful, it can be even more difficult. This can be especially prevalent in cases where an adopted animal has had a negative experience with a previous owner and the new pet owner must contend with the consequences. Although it will take effort, training a difficult animal can help to drastically improve its negative behavior and make it a better pet.  

 

Things You'll Need

• Dog treats
• Toys

Instructions:

1. Create a training plan in advance that outlines the goals you would like to accomplish with your dog. It is important that you can be flexible, as a dog with behavioral issues may take longer to train, but having your intent in mind will make it easier to maintain composure if the dog behaves poorly and the plan goes awry.

2. Appoint one person to be the instructor that will continually work with the problem animal. The consistency will be comforting to the dog and, hopefully, a bond will form and the training will become easier over time.

3. Give commands in a firm and dominant voice, but refrain from shouting at the animal. If the dog is angry and spiteful because of unkind previous owners, this act could trigger its aggression and further hinder the training process.

4. Reinforce successful training and encourage your pup with a positive reward system rather than negatively chastising for bad behavior. According to the Humane Society, you can use food, petting, toys and play time as rewards, depending on which is most motivating to your pet.

5. Be patient with your dog, even when the situation is frustrating. Training of any animal takes time, and behavioral issues can slow down the process.

Tips & Warnings

• Consult a professional trainer if you do not feel comfortable training an aggressive dog on your own.

 

 

How to Avoid Spiteful Girls

Cruelness is a big problem in girls, especially at school. Are you suffering under the Reign of Cruel Terror? Have no fear, Nice Girls! Here is your battle plan...  

Steps

1. Find out where the mean girls hang out. In the locker area? Outside the library? In specific corner? If so, avoid that area as much as possible. Don't go over there to annoy them, because that will only lead to many more problems.
2. Learn to spot mean girls. This is hard, as there are many types. Look on how they treat other people, not just their friends and boyfriends.
3. Don't be fooled by mean girls. They might try to win you over, but they will usually change fast, and you will find yourself being taunted about school-wide.
4. Try not to let what the mean girls do get to you. Try to use your words (ex. So, I like it.), but don't retaliate, it just makes things worse.(malicious gossip)
5. If it gets really bad, this is not taunting, it's BULLYING! So tell someone!

Tips

• Try to avoid comebacks, as they are masters at making fake, malicious gossip seem credible.
• Don't lower yourself to cruelness!
• If you are a mean girl: try to stop taunting, it's pathetic!
• Remember that not all good-looking girls are rude. Likewise, they can come in all shapes and sizes.

Warnings

• Don't be rude to mean girls, even if they deserve it, because that makes you mean! (And as I said, it will haunt you!)
• Don't just assume that because they are well groomed and pretty that they are mean girls. This is stereotyping and it will cause problems with any two people or any two groups of people.
• Don't act like you don't care about cruelness because keeping it all bottled up can lead to an explosion which could ruin a lot of friendships and hurt a lot of people's feelings.

 

How to Cope With Spiteful Family Members

 The old saying, “You can choose your friends, but you can’t choose your family,” is very true. We as people, have no decision in the matter of our lineage, especially when you have to cope with family members who tend to be spiteful or malicious. Fortunately, you don’t have to accept this negative behavior. You can learn how to cope with spiteful family members without becoming a spiteful person. Read on to learn how to cope with spiteful family members.

Instructions:

1.  Accept the fact that you are related to a spiteful, sometimes disruptive person. The reality of the situation may be problematic, but it needs to be accepted. Realize that your family member may have mental and/or physical issues that prompt them to act in a spiteful, malicious manner. Although, this is a burden for all those involved, accepting this major character flaw, allows you to act accordingly.

2. Keep your positive attitude. Many times spiteful people purposely try to push your buttons. This is the time to remain calm in the storm. Keep your positive attitude, by not allowing their disruptions to ruin one second of your day.

3. Keep your distance. No one ever said you had to be a "close" family member. By this point, your spiteful family member now has a reputation. Learn to keep your distance and alleviate the possibility or unnecessary drama and confusion.

4. Cut your ties. This is the absolute last step, but it is essential to positive growth as an individual who strives for excellence in their own life. Cutting your ties can be done by limiting your phone conversations, personal interactions and communication. It is for your own good.

 

5 Tips for Calming Down a Spiteful Friend

Two and a half years ago I met one of the best friends I'll ever have in my entire life. It was not a "friends at first sight" situation. I was her new boss, she was the one staff member I was warned about by 3 different people. These people told me she was manipulative, bitter, unhappy, underhanded, and that's just to name a few. But, I was willing to give her the benefit of the doubt, a decision I've never regretted.
It wasn't easy at first. She would come in to work with a frown on her face, she wouldn't talk to anyone, and when she did, it was always to complain. She would start sentences emphatically, "That's just not right! We can't let that happen! Someone needs to be held responsible!" And I would listen. Eventually, I started joking with her, giving her a hard time about whatever she was complaining about, letting her know I cared about her opinions, but I wasn't going to be bullied. By the next year, we were inseparable.
What I learned is this: she's an emotional person who feels strongly about things. She has insecurities and fears that sometimes make her put up a front. She tries to protect herself, taking on the offensive, rather than risking getting hurt. Do you have a friend like this? Here are a couple tips on how to deal:

1. LISTEN, BUT DON'T REACT. From my experience, much of a person's anger can be dissipated simply by being allowed to get it off their chest. It's cathartic to talk about the things that bother us. That said, avoid fueling the fire. Let them talk while you listen, but don't react strongly to the things they're saying.
2. QUESTION THEM KINDLY. One of the most common phrases I use with my friend is, "I understand completely why you're worked up about this. I see your point, but, I'm going to play the devil's advocate here, have you thought about _____________?" That's one of the best ways to try and get them to see the other side of the situation.
3. KNOW WHEN TO USE HUMOR. There would be times my friend would come in and start ranting from the get-go. Sometimes, I knew I could stop the negativity simply by saying, "Wow, someone got up on the wrong side of bed! Did you forget your coffee this morning?" Then she would laugh and the ranting would stop.
4. HAVE THEM THINK ABOUT THE DRAWBACKS OF WHATEVER ACTION THEY'RE TAKING. My friend can absolutely be spiteful. It's not because she's a mean person, but because when she feel hurt, she refuses to do anything that will help the person who hurt her, which in turn, often ends up coming back to haunt her. For instance, if someone at work was mad at her and wasn't talking to her, rather than try to mend the relationship, she would say, "Well, if Sue doesn't want to talk to me, fine! I won't talk to her!" When I see her cutting off her nose to spite her face, I call her on it! "Really? You aren't going to talk to one of your closest friends just because YOU messed up in the first place?" Sometimes people just need a dose of reality.
5. REFUSE TO BE AFRAID OF THEM. I think that many people use spiteful or vengeful behavior because others don't know how to respond, and will cave rather than deal with the confrontation. It works. They get what they want because people are afraid of them. When you refuse to cave, and when you do it in a non confrontational, respectful, and patient manner, you've taken their power away from them.

The fact is, spiteful people are emotional people. This means they feel strongly in both good and bad ways. My friend is one of the best friends I have BECAUSE she is an emotional person who will support me until the day I die. It's easy to give up on friendships like these because they take a great deal of patience, but if you're willing to put in the effort, they can be some of the best friendships you'll ever have.